— Kelly Clarkson
I can always take care of myself, but I still want to meet a person who can take care of me, much more than I do. The problem with being independent, is that people think you like to be alone. We don't like it but we don't have a problem about it. I know am so independent. It’s always, “Oh, no, I can do this.” “Yeah, don’t worry, I got it.”
For the majority of my childhood to teenage years, I have grown up without really having anyone to depend on. I didn’t mind as I had my mum to look up to and let her be the role model of my life. So from a very young age, I have had to learn to be independent where I had to be responsible for myself. Dad was also there too, he raised me to be a strong kid. He told me that end the of the day, he and mum will be gone in the future, and all will be left is just myself, so i have to learn how to stand with my own two feet as early as then. If you want something done, you have to do it yourself, he always told me. I’m thankful to him for instilling this in me from a young age. Because of that I’ve learned to not depend on others for much of anything. I hate asking people for things like rides or favours. If I can do it myself, I’d rather just do it myself. I guess you can say that I grew up quicker than I should and matured a lot quicker than some.
I want a guy who will make me think that "I am independent, but I need him". The guy who'll make me realize that just like everybody else i need someone in my life to take care of me, too.
Being independent is not about being too cocky or boastful or overconfident, just because I always say that I prefer to do things on my own doesn't mean that you're useless to me or I don't trust your work or whatever. I'm definitely not a WonderWoman or any superhero out there, it's just that if I know I can do things, I'll do it.As much as I want anyone to be involved in everything that I'm going through, I find it awesome if they'll just watch me go through it by myself because they believe that I really can.
It’s not like when I’ll say it then you’ll just evaporate from the scene. It's not like I don't need you or I don't trust you enough for whatever it is, I just don't like to feel like i'm bothering you in any ways. It’s all about giving me a chance to prove myself that I can really do it without you getting involved for the most parts of it. I will really like it if you'll just encourage me to push through with it and at the same time you won't forget to tell me that you're just right there if ever I'll need some help.
But I’m happy relying on just me. I like knowing that I can fend for myself through thick and thin. Of course we all need people to share life with. But becoming too dependent on anyone is something I never want to do. That’s like giving up control of your own life, of your own destiny. That’s giving way too much power to someone else. BUT Not me. Not this girl. Me, I’mma Ms. Independent for life.
I don't want to be that girl that needs a man, i want to be that girl that a man needs.