Life Changes.

marahglam

Life Changes.

This is not how I pictured this month to turn out. Things have changed a lot and it is still changing. Its sad that I can’t see enough of my future as I would like but I just have to move on. I honestly wouldnt want to be me right now but the only thing I can do is to stay strong. It’s just something I need to accept. At this point all I can do is to not let it get to me, keep my head held high && become a better person.

"You've Changed." I've been hearing that a lot. Whether it’s good or bad I don’t know. But I can’t really help it. I’ve been going through shit, a lot of it. Whether it's problems in the family, with friends, or love life. It made me open my eyes and see the world in a whole different view. So I might act a little tougher, and seem a little harder. I may not talk to certain people as much because I realized how fake they were, or because I simply just don’t talk to anyone. And I may seem a little more distant and sad everyday.

It's only February and i feel like i was pressured to become more stronger than i can only be. I honestly don't know what to do, should i runaway, build my walls up, or shut my doors down. I don't expect everyone to care or just to notice. I mean i don't want to be self-centered or conceited because i understand that i'm not the only one in this world that's going through hell. Everybody's struggling, everybody's fighting for something.

I often hear people say that they should never have to change for someone in order to be their friend or their partner. I just have to say, I completely disagree with this statement in its entirety. Sure, I don’t think someone should change their life long dreams or make stupid decisions just to please someone else, but there are changes that are for the better, and tons of them. When you’re growing up, you make decisions, good or bad, and your parents tell you to make different ones if you’re being a “bad” kid. They are changing you and unless you want your phone taken away and the internet turned off, you do as you’re told. Those changes build in to habits so you don’t get in trouble and viola!, you’ve changed for someone.

Now, the more pressing issue, changing for a partner or friend. I don’t believe that you should just do whatever someone wants or submit to being their slave for the rest of your life. Of course not! However, I think more people should take a good look at what the other person is asking of you. I mean, here’s a person that you are involved with, potentially love or are in love with, and they want to change something about you. Maybe, just maybe, they are trying to help you, teach you, much like your parents did but in a more mutual way.

I can’t think of a single relationship (friends or lovers) that I’ve ever been 100% happy with the way someone is/was. Also, I can’t imagine that any of my friends/lover have ever been 100% satisfied with me. Is it wrong to say, “Hey, sometimes I think you let your temper get out of control and I think it’s something you could work on.”? No! I think that’s phenomenal and probably the most mature thing you could do in a relationship. It’s all about compromises and becoming better people! Everyone who thinks that changing for someone is the most evil thing in existence needs to get over themselves.

 You are not perfect. I am not perfect. No one is perfect. We all learn, we all grow, and we try to be the best person we can be. Are you really so ignorant to think that there is nothing you need to change to become a better person? Or have you just given up all hope that you could ever be more than you are right now? I personally believe that I will continue to grow, learn, live, laugh, and change throughout my entire life.

If I have one piece of advice, I would tell everyone to not shut out the advice that people are giving you. Not all of it is going to be positive and you can pick and choose what you’d like to use in your own life, but don’t ever ignore or be insulted by somebody who is trying to help you take a new step forward. Let's all be mature, shall we? :)

And at the end of the day, you'll realize that the change was for you, and not for anybody else. :>

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xx, myarah