3 Month Rule.



I was once a believer of the three month rule, then I begin to realize that it’s nothing more than a socially imposed “norm”. I honestly have nothing against people who believe it - we have different ways of living anyway (and a little variety of fun too) but this “rule” doesn’t work for everyone. Yes, I get that this three month rule aims to give respect to the past relationship and all that jazz but I guess all that mainly depends on how both parties think and react. I believe that jumping into a relationship without following this “norm” is acceptable and it doesn’t mean you don’t respect the past one.



People have different span of moving on anyway. In my opinion, this three month rule is like putting up your best foot forward. For me it’s just a face you put up to make yourself look good to other people. But ask yourselves why? Why do you have to make yourself acceptable in their eyes based on society’s “ideal character”? Will you just let society dictate to you what’s right and wrong? What will make you happy? What if in the process you found someone? Or better, you’ve been found? Will you just let that pass? Will you wait?

Who are we to care what people think, anyway? And mainly, who are we to judge?

If you haven’t seen the movie "One More Chance" (starring John Lloyd Cruz and Bea Alonzo), you’re probably not aware about the “3-month rule.” Admit it, they popularized the '3-month Rule' trend here in the Philippines. It's a Filipino movie, for those of you who doesn't know. According to it, the 3-month rule is when you can’t be involved in any kind of relationship in the span of 3 months after your previous one. Three month rule says that when every relationship ends you must wait again for 3 months before starting a new one because its a sign of respect to each one. You must give each other 3 months to move on. Why 3 months? because people say that you can move on within 3 months of time.


I really don’t believe in this 3 month rule thing because i believe that when its over, its over. When its time to move on, move on. and if you’re already in love with someone new, go for it right?. Screw what other people will say! You don't live for them, you live for yourself. Do it right or wrong, people will talk. So do whatever makes you happy. You only have one life to live, so live your life to the fullest. So then when you look back you won't have any regrets, and if the choice you made was a mistake that you realize at the end. At least you'll learn something from it then you'll be better next time.


P.S. I never wanted to write something about this topic, i don't think it has any importance to what's happening to me right now, because as i said a while ago i don't believe in this 'norm'. But if i counted right yesterday marks that the '3monthrule' was over for me. HAHA Time flies, anyway I wrote this one out of love for a friend. A girl-friend. I'm always ecstatic to write something for anyone as long as they gave me their blessings to write it.

She's fresh from a break-up, then he met a guy when she's staying at her gramma's house in Finland. It was love at first sight, as she says. But then people around her accuses her that she's a two-timing b*tch who doesnt even respect the '3monthrule' and all the shit-talking. People, you only chose what you want to believe, so stop harassing her... jeez. If you don't know sh*t, just stop talking. She + Ex + New Love, count how many people are involve so obviously you don't belong. It's their story, stop being an extra. You don't get paid either way. *peace-out*

bloggin'
xx, myarah

4 comments

Anonymous | November 8, 2011 at 10:28 PM

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anthonette | November 9, 2011 at 3:47 PM

i like this one, i super agree with u babe! well said :) <3 *clap clap clap*

myarahh | November 9, 2011 at 9:26 PM

haha thank you so much! :)

Yola Thorp | November 12, 2011 at 12:58 AM

cute post

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