People change, feelings change but it doesn't mean that the love once shared is not true, real and genuine. It sometimes mean that when they grow, they grow apart. - 500 Days of Summer
I'm watching 500 Days of Summer for the 3rd time, everything about it cuts right through me not because i'm relating my current love-life to the plot. It's just that it tackles reality, that sometimes 'once upon a time' happens and not just 'happily ever after'. *wink* Feels like the writer somewhat peeked into my diary. Break-ups, falling apart, breaking down, letting go... no matter what it is, i know it's painful, sometimes unbearable, and life-shattering. I've had my fair-shares of break-ups so when it comes to this i ain't no expert, but i know better.
“I don’t love you anymore.” "This is not working, we two grew apart." "You're not in my priority right now." "It's not you, it's me." "I'm breaking up with you." "There's someone else."
These are one of the worst sentences anyone can hear, especially when it comes out of the blue in the midst of what you thought was a good relationship. You don’t have screaming or horrible fights. There’s no abuse of any kind. You thought things were moving along nicely and suddenly he/she hits you with the revelation that he/she’s not that into you anymore.
But the big question is... WHY?
They fall out of love because they are bored. When you’re in a long-term, committed relationship, it’s easy to start taking things for granted and slipping into a routine that is comfortable and boring.
They fall out of love because you neglected him/her. You may think that you’re doing enough to make your special someone feel appreciated and loved, but unfortunately they may be feeling differently.
They fall out of love because they met someone else. Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint exactly what makes them fall out of love with their partner, but in the case of The Other Man/The Other Woman, the reason is clear.
They fall out of love because you two grew apart. We all change as time goes by. Sometimes the person you got together with becomes someone you don’t recognize after. It’s possible that the reason they’re falling out of love is simply that their needs, priorities and goals are different than they were when you started the relationship.
Occasionally, relationships just end for no particular reason. That love just isn’t there anymore. This can be frustrating and confusing, since there’s no obvious cause for the two of you drifting apart. You may not be fighting constantly, but if one or both of you are not happy, you have to put in the effort to fix things — or worst just walk away.